November is National Family Caregivers Month, a time to recognize and honor the millions of people who care for loved ones facing health challenges. If you’re supporting someone affected by substance use or mental health issues, you know how demanding that role can be. Caregiving is an act of deep love and compassion, but it can also be emotionally and physically draining. Unfortunately, it’s also a role that can be overlooked as we focus on the person most in immediate need.
Taking care of someone else often means putting their needs before your own. Over time, that can lead to burnout, stress, and feelings of isolation. The truth is, you can’t pour from an empty cup. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish — it’s necessary. When you’re rested, supported, and emotionally balanced, you’re better able to care for the person you love.
We’ve gathered some practical ways to protect your own well-being while continuing to be there for your loved one. Throughout November, we encourage you to try as many as possible as you work towards keeping yourself balanced.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Caregiving comes with many emotions — love, hope, frustration, sadness, and even guilt. It’s okay to feel all of them. Pretending you’re fine when you’re struggling can take a toll on your mental health. Instead, give yourself permission to name your feelings and talk about them. Journaling, prayer, or speaking with a trusted friend can help you process what’s going on inside.
Learn About the Condition
When a loved one is facing addiction or mental illness, it can feel confusing and unpredictable. Learning more about their condition can help you better understand what they’re going through and what to expect. Many local organizations, including Elevate, offer educational resources and support groups for family members. Knowledge helps replace fear with compassion and empowers you to respond in healthy ways.
Set Healthy Boundaries
It’s natural to want to fix everything for someone you love, but there’s a limit to what you can control. Setting boundaries protects both of you. That might mean saying no to certain requests, creating space for yourself, or not taking responsibility for another person’s choices. Boundaries aren’t about being unkind — they’re about creating balance so you can keep helping without losing yourself in the process.
Make Time for You
Even short breaks make a difference. Take a walk, read a book, meet a friend for coffee, or simply sit in silence for a few minutes. Small moments of peace throughout the day can restore your energy. Try to maintain healthy habits like regular sleep, nutritious meals, and exercise. Remember: rest is not a reward you have to earn — it’s part of staying well.
Ask for Help
You don’t have to do this alone. Lean on friends, family, or professionals when things feel overwhelming. Support groups are especially helpful because you can connect with others who truly understand what you’re going through. Sharing experiences and advice in a safe space can bring comfort and perspective at a time you need it most.
If your loved one is in treatment or recovery, it’s also okay to ask their care team for guidance. They can help you find ways to support your loved one while also maintaining your own emotional health.
Celebrate Small Victories
Caregiving is full of challenges, but it’s also full of moments worth celebrating — even the small ones. Maybe your loved one attended a counseling session, took a healthy step forward, or simply had a good day. Take time to notice and appreciate progress, no matter how slow it feels. Gratitude can help shift your focus from exhaustion to hope.
You Deserve Support, Too
Being a caregiver to someone struggling with substance use or mental health issues takes courage, patience, and strength. But you don’t have to carry the weight alone.
If you or someone you love needs support, Elevate is here to help. We offer resources, education, and caring guidance for individuals and families navigating recovery and mental health challenges. Reach out today by visiting www.elevateyou.org to learn how we can walk alongside you on this journey.
