The holiday season can be joyful, busy, and full of tradition, but it can also be challenging for people in recovery. Social events, family pressures, and changes in routine can make this time of year feel overwhelming. If you have a loved one who is working hard to stay sober, your support can make a meaningful difference. Here are some simple, caring ways to help them feel safe, included, and understood during the holidays.
1. Ask What They Need
Everyone’s recovery journey is different. One of the best ways to be supportive is to simply ask, “What would be helpful for you this season?” Your loved one may want to avoid certain gatherings, bring their own drinks, or have a buddy to check in with. By asking, you show respect and give them space to share their boundaries.
2. Keep Alcohol Optional, or Skip It When You Can
Many holiday events center around drinking. If you’re hosting, consider offering a fully alcohol-free event or at least having plenty of appealing non-alcoholic options like sparkling water, cider, or festive mocktails. If your loved one feels safer without alcohol present, honoring that can make your home a comfortable place for them to relax.
3. Help Them Plan Ahead
For someone in recovery, surprises or unstructured time can create stress. Offer to help plan the day, such as where to go, what to expect, and who will be there. Encourage them to bring their own transportation if they want the option to leave early. A simple plan can provide confidence and reduce anxiety.
4. Include Them Without Pressure
Being invited feels good, but feeling pressured does not. Let your loved one know that you would love to have them at gatherings, but it is completely OK if they choose not to come or need to leave early. A gentle “We’d enjoy having you with us if you feel up to it” can go a long way.
5. Be a Calm Presence
Holiday stress can make small conflicts feel bigger. Try to stay patient, kind, and grounded. If your loved one seems uncomfortable or withdrawn, check in privately. A quiet moment of understanding (“I’m here for you if you need a break”) can help them feel supported.
6. Celebrate Their Progress
Recovery is a major accomplishment. Acknowledge their hard work. You don’t need a big speech; simple encouragement like, “I’m proud of you,” or “You’re doing great,” can be deeply meaningful. Focus on hope, growth, and the positive direction they’re moving in.
7. Offer Alternatives to Drinking Activities
Suggest fun, low-pressure holiday activities that don’t involve alcohol, like baking cookies, watching movies, playing games, volunteering, or taking a walk. Shared experiences can help create new traditions that feel safe and joyful.
8. Encourage Self-Care
The holidays can drain anyone, but especially someone focused on staying sober. Support your loved one in getting good sleep, eating well, taking breaks, and checking in with their support network or meetings. Healthy choices make it easier to stay grounded.
9. Be Patient and Keep Showing Up
Recovery is not a straight line. Your steady support — your presence, understanding, and patience — makes a difference. Even small acts of kindness help your loved one feel less alone.
The holidays don’t have to be stressful. With understanding and compassion, you can help your loved one stay connected, confident, and supported throughout the season.
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